Grieving is natural. It is a process that happens when we are adjusting our minds and bodies when we encounter a feeling of loss of someone or something. At its extreme it may be the loss of a loved one, a close friend, or a pet. It can also happen when there is a major disruption in your life. This could occur when a relationship ends, there is a job loss, or some other firmly established routine gets disrupted. It is important to realize that this process has a beginning and an end. When the end never seems to occur, then help may be warranted.
I have often written that we think and exist in terms of patterns. These are patterns of understanding, expectation, and behavior. Physically, they are represented by networks of neurons in your brain and the repeated responses in your body. (We call those responses feelings.) The more that a pattern is recalled or accessed, the stronger these networks and responses become.
When a deeply programmed pattern – such as the familiarity of someone that you are close to – gets disrupted, your mind and body go through a very uncomfortable stage. However, like the natural healing of a wound, your brain should go through a restructuring that allows you establish new relationships (patterns) in your life. When this does not happen, then it begins to affect your health and your happiness.
The re-programming of your mind that should occur after a loss requires you to be able to stop obsessive and unwanted thoughts and to link triggering thoughts and events to new reactions. This allows you to honor the loss without being unduly controlled by it. My Soothe Away Grief hypnosis CD and MP3 session is designed to help you with this process.