By Coach Cary Bayer
Norman Vincent Peale, one of the 20th century's great positive thinking gurus, once said: "Change your thoughts and you change your world." To that I would add the following idea; namely, that it's just as wise to change your speech. If you want to lose weight, it's obvious that you have to watch what you eat and change how you exercise. A veritable fortune has been made by Weight Watchers with such a formula. If you want to prosper as an alternative healer, then it's also important that you watch what you say. I call this article Word Watchers.
Two thousand years ago, people asked the greatest alternative healer ever what they should eat and what they should drink. The reply from Jesus was fascinating: "...not what goes into the mouth defiles a man, but what comes out of the mouth, this defiles a man." (The italics are mine for emphasis.) It's time to stop letting your speech bring you down and restrict the number of treatments that you do each week and, as a result, the amount of money you bring in, as well.
As the business coach for massage therapists and dozens of alternative healers, throughout the U.S., I have heard their disempowering speech, I'm sad to say, on a daily basis.
Like the psychologist who is "waiting for the other shoe to drop."
Talk about expecting negative things to happen. The Law of Attraction states that where your attention goes, energy flows. Another way of saying it that I learned from Maharishi decades before The Secret became a runaway best-seller was what you put your attention on grows stronger in your life. What do you want to get stronger...the other shoe that drops or perhaps buying a whole new pair of great shoes?
I've heard an energy healer whom I know say: "With my luck..." implying that hers is so bad, there's no chance her desires will be realized. How can they with such negative thinking?
A part-time licensed massage therapist called himself "a credit card junkie." Who wants to have his tired muscles massaged by any kind of a junkie? Junkies are out of control. Call me wacky, but I don't want the hands of anyone out of control with heroin, crack, alcohol, food, or credit cards touching my body.
Your subconscious mind takes your words literally, even when spoken humorously or with exaggeration. Let me repeat that: your subconscious mind takes what you say literally. Did I say literally? Your words are messages broadcast throughout the universe; so make sure that these messages are consistent with your higher self, not your lower.
Here are expressions from the lower self I've heard other alternative healers utter in the course of a conversation.
1. It's too good to be true.
I've seen people "lose" big contracts and job offers at the 11th hour because the thought that great things don't happen to you can prevent them from actually happening. Paul Simon wrote, "The nearer your destination/the more you're slip slidin' away." Replace this negative way of thinking with the affirmation: If it's really good, it must be true.
2. She has hair (legs, breasts, etc.) I could kill for.
Really? Ok, just make sure that, when you go on trial for murder, your lawyer uses the Hair Defense. I know you don't really mean this one either, so don't use it. Your subconscious mind does think you mean it.
3. I don't deserve (to be treated so nicely, your gift, etc.)
If you don't think you deserve to be treated well, you won't be. Here's a more prosperous way of speaking: As an innocent child of God, I deserve a life of abundance.
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